- Is “no” not a part of your vocabulary?
- Do you feel “stuck”?
- Do you find reasons to not do something? To escape or avoid your thoughts, feelings or relationships?
- Do you find yourself wanting to keep the peace at any cost?
- Do you struggle in relationships because you can’t trust yourself or those around you?
- How often do you wonder, “who am I?” outside of a relationship?
- Are you someone different in each relationship you have because you follow their lead?
- Are the negative thoughts overtaking your mind so daily tasks, sleep, and self care seem insurmountable?
- Will the disturbing images and memories not stop coming?
I See You
I Know Your Battles
Your Battle: Healing the wounds from relationship trauma
"Who am I?" is a question that rears its head when you are alone. You feel anxious and scared and not quite sure if you can be alone. You have learned to take care of others needs and wants and aren't even sure what you enjoy, what you like, what you dislike. Saying "yes" and giving in so others don't get upset with you, so they "like" you, to keep the peace is your standard response. After you give everything and others take from you, you find yourself getting frustrated and resentful. Then you feel guilty for having those emotions. You notice that your relationships have the same patterns. You notice excessive worry, negative thoughts about yourself, the world, and others. Trust is something you long to have in your life, however, due to childhood experiences and difficult adult relationships you haven't been able to have that trust fulfilled.
It is time to take your power back. To be able to look in the mirror and love the person staring back at you. You have a lived a life without boundaries and have lost yourself. I will walk with you on the journey to finding yourself, embracing your authentic self. Let's heal the past wounds and become the person you want to be.
Your Battle: Healing the wounds that have led to anxiety, fear, addiction.
"I'm stuck." "I can't do this." You feel like you have to hide, fight, freeze, or run. And this is a common response for you. And when you aren't stuck you feel like you need something else, anything else to deal with life. You're not even sure what you are afraid of, or if you do, you don't feel safe to look at the underlying reasons for the fear. You find your comfort or escape in substances, food, unhealthy relationships, money, sex, gambling, work, repetitive unhealthy behaviors that are soothing, or self harm and thoughts of dying. You feel disconnected from life and aren't sure what your purpose is or why you're here. All you really want is to feel safe and confident and have someone understand your struggle. Have someone that will listen to you, not judge you, and support you so you can overcome the hurt, fear, shame, anger, loneliness, sadness, guilt, or jealousy inside.
It is time to take your power back. To be able to look in the mirror and love the person staring back at you. You have a lived a life in fear and trying to escape. I will walk with you on the journey to finding yourself, embracing your authentic self. Let's heal the past wounds and become the person you want to be.
Your Battle: Healing the wounds that lead to arguments and disconnection in your relationship
"We keep arguing and I don't feel understood." "I feel like she's not listening to me." "I feel like he doesn't care and expects me to take care of everything." You are a couple who are struggling to connect in your relationship. You find yourself being triggered in conversations which lead to an argument or shutting down and neither of you know what to do to make things better. You care about each other and want to make the relationship work, however, you're not sure it can and that you want to continue to live in the situation where you don't feel safe to communicate or be yourself.
In relationships, we all bring our own "baggage" into it. If we have not taken the time to heal ourselves then the baggage seeps in and we are no longer communicating with our partner. We are triggered and reacting from a place that is about someone or something in our past.
It is time to take your power back in your relationship. If you are a couple and want to work on learning how to communicate so you understand each other on a deeper level and heal so the past no longer influences your communication and connection then please contact me for more information. Free your relationship from the heaviness of the past.
About Jen Spencer
LIMHP, LADC, CCTP, EMDRIA Approved Consultant
I offer over 13 years of experience working with trauma. My background includes overcoming my own struggles and obstacles. When I say “we” I mean it. No one should have to walk this journey alone and healing is messy, like on a battlefield when we have to get muddy and bloody in combat. The difference is you have already survived the initial pain and hurt. We simply have to make space for your healing and utilize your innate courage so your authentic self can breathe and live again.
I offer more than traditional talk therapy, with powerful healing options of EMDR Therapy and Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy. Let’s get to the core of what has led to your life patterns and heal from the inside out.
I See You...And the Warrior Within
Sometimes this world can bring struggles we feel are insurmountable. We become tired, tired of fighting, tired of being misunderstood and not seen for who we are. We feel unsafe in the world at large, our homes, and even within ourselves.
There is a warrior within each of us and we simply have to break through the barriers and walls to allow our warrior to breathe again. I see the warrior behind your mask.
What is a warrior?
– A warrior acknowledges their fears, and doesn’t let that stop them from moving forward.
– A warrior takes action and practices their skills daily.
– A warrior is authentic and honest. Their words and actions are in sync. There are no excuses.
– A warrior serves others and validates others needs and feelings and works to help those around them.
– A warrior is fearless. They know what their fears are and embrace them with love and are motivated by love.
– A warrior doesn’t hide behind their masks or defenses. They reveal who they are and discard the masks so they have a clear vision.
– A warrior offers help because they can, not because they want to or feels like it.
– A warrior is generous, they give without fear or concern for not having or being enough.
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”
Khalil Gibran
